Did you know that talking about sex with a woman can be the first step to actually having it? Unfortunately, most guys screw up big time when they try to turn a conversation in that direction and they end up coming across as “creepy” or “clueless.” The solution here is to learn the ways to flirt with a woman sexually. Here are 10 tips to help you do it.

No.10 – Speak in a sexy way

Think you can turn a woman on with a high-pitched, squeaky voice? Think again. Women pay more attention to your tone of voice than to the words you speak. When you flirt with a woman in a sexual way, work on improving your delivery. Speak slowly, hold eye contact, deepen your voice, and pause. Be careful not to be overly dramatic and cheesy; think James Bond, not Austin Powers. These style-points help you convey powerful sexual undertones in your communications with women and they will help you build attraction and sexual tension fast.

No.9 – Accuse her of being the aggressor

One of the best ways to get the fun started is to accuse a woman of trying to seduce you. For example, if she mentions something about her house, such as: “I just moved into a new place” or “Do you know how to install a wireless router?” you should say: “Wow, you are trying to get me to come over to your house already? I’m not surprised.” Women love it when you do this. Don’t be surprised if she really does try to get you to come over soon after.

No.8 – Show her you’re a stud

Women want men who know how to please them, but you can’t come right out and say: “I’m a great lover.” Instead, use sexual innuendo to indirectly convey this message. For example, say you are at your place making a drink for a woman and she says: “Wow, you’re good at that.” Look her square in the eye and say: “I’m good at a lot of things.” She’ll get the hint that you’re a stud and be dying to find out more.

No.7 – Get her to “use you”

Women accuse men of using them for sex all the time, so why not turn the tables? The next time you do something considerate for a woman, tell her: “So, you’re using me already… next thing I know you’ll be trying to use me for other things as well.” She’ll find this role-reversal hilarious and it’s a great way to bring up the topic of sex in a safe, fun and non-threatening way.

No.6 – Make “boring” conversation sexy

When most men first meet a woman, they ask her typical, boring questions like: “Where are you from?” and “What do you do for work?” Women usually hate it when guys do this, but you can set yourself apart by using these drab questions to turn things sexual, quickly. For example, when you find out a woman is from, say, Spain, you can say to her: “Hmm, you know what they say about women from Spain, don’t you?” Then let your sly smile and rock-solid eye contact suggest that you know Spanish women are, well, let’s just say a lot of fun.

No.5 – Bring sex into the situation

A great way to flirt sexually with a woman is to compare some of your “outside the bedroom” activities to what goes on inside the bedroom. For example, let’s say you get a woman a cup of tea; you can follow up by saying: “Looks like you’re on the receiving end today. Do you always receive or do you like to give at times too?” Crack a slight smile and she will know exactly what you are talking about.

No.4 – Pay her back

Let’s say a woman does something nice for you and then teases you by saying: “That’s OK; you can pay me back later.” Why not make the currency sexual? Say something like: “Pay you back? Hmm, I’m short on cash right now. Do you have any creative payment options in mind?”

No.3 – Tell her she’s naughty

Another fun way to tease a woman in a sexual way is to accuse her of being “naughty” in her everyday activities. For example, if a woman tells you she was just in the shower, ask her how it was. If she gives any positive response, reply with something like: “Nice shower? Interesting. What exactly were you doing in there that made it so nice? I’m curious.”

No.2 – Let her know you know

Want to know a secret about female sexuality that 99% of men don’t know? Here it is: Many women feel compelled to vacuum their house when they’re ovulating. Some experts believe it has something to do with wanting to “clean the nest” before laying her “egg.” So, when a woman tells you she is vacuuming, say: “Vacuuming? Are you ovulating or something?” She’ll be stunned that you know this and wonder what else you know about female sexuality. Of course, if she doesn’t know what you mean, fill her in. Women love it when you teach them something new — especially about themselves.

No.1 – Find the double-meanings

The English language is literally packed with words you can twist around to create sexual meanings. Wet, juicy, hard, fast, hot — the possibilities are endless. For example, if she says her drink is big, you can reply with something like: “Big can be a good thing, don’t you think?” You’ll be surprised how easy it is to add a bit of sexuality to everyday conversations once you start looking for opportunities.